Forsake Not The Journey
Forsake Not The Journey
We don’t always get a choice in this life as far as paths go. But in the instance that you’re presented with options, don’t always choose to take the more popular or the easiest. Often the most rewarding journeys are the ones traveled alone. This is not to be applied to every situation because everything doesn’t have to be hard but there will be times when you just have to embrace a journey that will leave you with, more knowledge, strength, and wisdom. So the next time that you’re faced with multiple paths to take, choose wisely. The easiest way is not always the best way.
We're All Mountain Climbers
Sometimes when looking for clear pasture the only thing visible is mountains. Yes mountains. You've been trying to figure out how you're going to get make it and you peer out seeking resolution and there before you stands this gigantic being that can only be tackled with endurance and strength. So you step up and look at it first with contempt and then with determination. You can't stay where you are and if the only way for you to make it over this hurdle in life is to climb this mountain, then climb this mountain you shall.
When we face challenges within our lives we sometimes hope to overcome them with as little effort as possible but that just isn't the case in all matters. There will be times when we'll just have to put on our adult size shoes and climb. We all have that inner strength stored up that's just waiting to be used. You're going to make it. Giving up isn't an option.
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Have you ever met your supposedly Mr. or Mrs. Right at the wrong time? Sure you have! We all have. We've waited long and hard to find that one person that possesses the 80% that we just know we can stretch into 100% but then we're hit with the age old excuse that, 'they're just not ready.' Indecisiveness at it's finest. So we date just to avoid the pain staking reality that the person who we truly want to date is playing around or who is most commonly, just not interested. And that's okay. But what's not okay is never telling the emotionally vested person that you're just not interested in pursuing anything further than a friendship. Why is it so hard for the uninterested party to just say so?
Majority of the time, it can simply be attributed to selfishness. You're satisfying a portion of what they are desiring at that particular moment and because they have more than likely made you aware of the fact that there's no chance of a romantic future together, they'll continue using you until either they get bored, find what they truly want, or YOU leave. That is always an option. It has been said time and time again that if a person wants to be with you, they will. Point blank. Don't try and make excuses for them. When you know that your feelings are involved, don't then create mechanisms to deal with the constant pain of rejection, but eliminate it. That's not saying that you have to be cruel or mean to that person, just make them aware of how you're feeling and express the need to distance yourself from the situation. Under no circumstances should you allow yourself to be continuously hurt in exchange for someone else's pleasure.
In the end, you have to do what's best for you. In the case of a relationship, if someone wants to be with you, they will. If they don't, they won't. There's no mean time in between time. Guard your heart and walk away. You deserve so much more. No your worth.
Have you ever heard the saying that "one hurdle leads to the next?" In life we find ourselves facing different types of hurdles, one of them being mediocrity. We sometimes get so settled in one place in life that we lose ambition to move outside of our comfort zone. My advise for you today is to simply move! Revisit your list of new year goals that you once wanted to accomplish and dust off all of those unfinished projects that you put to the side because you lost your focus. We only have a certain amount of time to breathe life into to the things in which we were purposed to fulfill. You'll do yourself a great disservice and others not to leave this earth completely empty. Nurture your talents, use your gifts.
Some things are just outside of our immediate control. We all have parts in our lives that we wish to change suddenly but unfortunately, that's just not the way it works. Even when immediate action is taken, the finished results loom. So what do you do in between the thought to change and the result of change? Wait patiently and observe the process. Have you ever heard that things easily acquired are easier to lose? People tend to be more grateful when they strive to achieve a goal that work and sweat has been put into versus those who operate on a quick fix kind of schedule. Think of those who go on crash diets. Once the weight is gone, it usually gets regained in a matter of weeks. On the other hand, when someone changes their life style and creates healthy habits, the change usually last much longer, if not indefinitely.
So if you're currently working on making changes within your life, please do not rush the process but allow the reward of change to still you. Gradual change is better than no change at all.
Mending Broken Relationships
Some friendships aren't meant to last and some just are. The latter are the ones that endure hardships together, make it through disagreements, and above all, mend the bridge once trust has been broken. Whenever you experience any form of betrayal, it is hard at that time to imagine that the hurt wasn't intentional. It's hard to render compassion to someone who knows you so well but would still do something that would cause you pain. After all, shouldn't they know you better than anyone? Well sometimes when this happens friendships fall apart. One party starts distancing themselves from the other and before long, neither has spoken to one another in years. How does this happen?
It's hard to forgive and even harder to open back up to the person who not only injured you emotionally but broke your confidence in them. And that's understandable but not impossible to overcome. When you find yourself holding on to one bad decision that another person has made, take a step back and look at the overall picture. If the good out ways the bad then maybe you should consider for a moment the possibility of reconciliation. But regardless of whether or not you want that particular person back in your life, you still need to forgive. That not only frees them, but you.
Don't Invite People To Your Workout!
For most people, exercising can be a way of relieving stress, but what happens when you bring every person and thing that bothers you to your workout? CHAOS! There have been times while as I working out, mid high kick in the air, a situation would flutter through my mind like a scene out of a movie, and before I knew it, my heart was racing and I was kicking now out of anger. At this point, I was basically working against myself by allowing what annoyed me to drive me instead of meditating on something more positive, like being more healthy for me and my family. It's better to address situations as isolated events, deal with them, forgive, and then move on. Your mind and your heart will appreciate you for it.
So the next time that you're mid 'high kick' in your workout, leave the negativity out of it. You're doing yourself a disservice by inviting it inside your place of serenity.
Living Your Passion
I can remember when I first developed a love for writing. I actually never considered it to be such until I noticed that if I hadn't written anything, my day felt sort of obscure. I could've literally performed a thousand task but if my hands hadn't produced any legible words, I felt as though my day had been meaningless. And that is how I would define passion.
Possessing a passion for something totally engulfs your attention. You think about it when you wakeup and it's often the last thing that flutters through your mind before you go to sleep at night. It'll make you feel rich when you engulf yourself into it and poor when you neglect it. It can be both exhilarating and exhausting.
What is your passion? What keeps you up late at night and won't let you rest? Whatever that may be, I would advise you to never let it go hungry. I cherish my passion because it's what fuels me. I learn from it daily. It has taught me how to listen, how to feel, and how to express myself without regard of how others may interpret it. When you find yourself neglecting your gifts, you'll find yourself fruitless. So do yourself a favor, and DON'T!
We don't always get what we want but sometimes life equips us with what we need in the most peculiar fashion. Often times when there is a life changing lesson to be learned, we will keep going through the same thing or challenge time and time again until we learn something of value that will either help us in our lives as we grow further or until we can use that learning lesson to help someone else.
Consider the moment you felt as though you'd passed one of life's test. While going through the experience, you probably felt as though life was dealing you an unfair hand. We often feel isolated and misunderstood during that time. It's not until we take a step back and decide to eliminate mental stress out the situation, that we're able to see what the problem really is about. Sometimes we need to discover patience or the lesson can be something pertaining to exercising more discipline in a certain area of our lives. Whatever the case may have been, after we'd learned what it is that we were meant to learn, life suddenly got easier and when a similar situation arose, we felt better equipped to handle it. Even if handling it meant turning it over to God.
Sometimes life will present certain situations time and time again in order to teach us something of value. Don't forget these lessons, but use them as stepping stones to enjoy a more richer and wisdom filled life.
Who Are You?
Who you are to the core may not always make you popular but it will provide you with peace of mind, forfeiting the burden of pretending to be something that you're not. People often go throughout life making decisions based on what others may think about them. What a headache! If closets came without doors, trust, we'd all be walking around with a 'this is me accept it' kind of attitude because exposed flaws would then be the norm. But because our closets do have doors and we live in a society where uniqueness alienates you, we opt out of being ourselves and in turn become indifferent to the person that we really are.
How unfortunate for all of those who would benefit from you being the person who God created you to be. I think about the impressionist artist, Pablo Picasso, and his expression of art. The art society during the time in which he lived, didn't acknowledge paintings trying to capture movement, to be actual art. It wasn't until several years later that his work became widely accepted, making his paintings to be of great value. Had he stopped creating and stayed within the confines of what others expected of him, we wouldn't have the pleasure of looking through the eyes of one of the greatest impressionist of that time.
Have you ever met a total stranger where you were completely yourself and they loved everything about you? Recall how you felt being accepted for your true nature. Embracing compliments from others who were inspired by you just being you. Wasn't that more easy? Didn't it make you feel great. Consider going back to that place and allow every encounter moving forward to be a genuine one. Your reflection should be that of you and only you.