It's amazing how quickly time can bring about a change. A fact that most mother's can attest to. It starts off with a flutter and image depicting it's exact measurements and not far after, a bright eye gift of life is born and parenthood is created. So is it with most life changes. We may start at one point with things appearing almost nonexistent before blossoming into something great.
I've set goals that I haven't worked at accomplishing and unconsciously acheieved goals by way of default. But the goals that I am most proud of achieving are the ones in which I took a chance on.
Career, relationships, and life changes can all appear scary at first site but when turn out to be the best decisions of our lives when our gut surpasses our fear.
Today if you're thinking about making a life altering decisions, weigh your options responsibly and then act with confidence. Most of all, trust yourself.
Time waits for no one, but I hope it waits for me. We hope for the impossible optimistically in somewhat of a child like manner. We refruit the ideology of time and hope that somehow we can control it to our biding, like an adult, adolescent fairy tale. But this isn't Alice and Wonderland and time will remain consistant inspite of our inconsistency. So the question remains, if you can't control time, what is the best way to manage it.
Me, I'm a planner. I like to write things down so that I don't forget them and accuse myself later on of not being mature enough to get tasked completed. We are, after all, our worst critiques. But I didn't always take this approach, I was actually a horrible procrastinator. It wasn't until my time constraints began to affect my adult life and relationships negatively that I began to change. People often take offense when you're to meet them at a certain time and you show up thirty minutes late. It is sort of a disregard of that persons time.. You don't want to be labeled as the late person of the group. You're more likely to be looked upon as the least reliable and for good reason. Employment was also a huge factor for me. Because I didn't like being the only one who was late, I had to manage my time better which meant being in bed by a certain hour to allot for enough sleep. And in order to insure that things were done in proper timing so that I could stick to my sleep regimen, I took note of everything that needed to be done that day and if it could be accomplished, I did it. No questions asked. Sometimes we allow things to come for our sanity throughout the day and we keep saying to ourselves, 'I have to find time to do that,' until we feel completely swamped.
Getting things done when you first take notice of them will also leave you with what may feel like a surplus of time. At the end of the day when you're usually rushing to catch up on old, uncompleted task, you'll have that free space to devote to something else. It's noting like continuing a great conversation or finishing a good book without those annoying mental interruption that loom until we get around to getting something done that we continue to procrastinate on. You'll also be more refreshed in the morning when you're not under heavy time constraints. They say that the best way to start your day is by speaking with God. I agree. But there have been days where I've been so late that I ran out the door, tossing up a few quick words and then was on my way. Those days are usually the toughest to make it through.
So to make a long story short, delegating your time more wisely isn't only a benefit to those around you, in whom you owe some of your time to, but it's a great benefit to you as well. It'll bring more peace and tranquility to your day knowing that you don't have a massive amount of looming task hanging over your head that need tending to. So do yourself a favor and tackle your time.
One Date At A Time
Some hopeless romantic may still believe that googly eyes can magically transpire into something more affectionate then a few phone calls and blank text messages. Do you? What's different now from when marriages lasted beyond forty years? We can't blame it on the economy because there's no evidence to support that divorce rates increased during the Great Depression. So what then? Could it be that the moral compass has been tampered with and what is more commonly accepted now wasn't accpeted back then? More than likely.
We're living in a fast pace society that consist of convient meet and greets with little intention of ever getting to know someone. Social media has made it more easier than ever to meet someone quickly and discretely. Even over the course of time that has changed. At one point, you didn't have friends in your circle on facebook that you didn't know, but now it's free for all when it comes to both our time and personal space.
In order to place more value on dating, we have to be real with ourselves and what it is that we're looking for. Ordinarilly, when on your first date, things like relationship status is brought up and from there, what it is that you're looking for. When one party says that they're currently not looking for anything serious and you are, accept what they've told you and plan NOT to make any future dates. Think about it. Dating is only considered dating when you're attracted to someone and you're spending time with them in hopes of getting to know them better for a possible future with one another. That's it. Anything else is just hanging out. Know the difference, accept the difference, and make better choices. Now that 's not to say that you can't take things slow to get a feel for that person, but that's totally different from someone blantantly expressing their lack of interest in pursuing commitment.
If you're currently on the market, be careful of what you accept. No one forces you to settle for what you don't want, only you can.