WORRY LESS OVER THE SPILLED MILK
We've all been told, 'there's no point of crying over spilled milk', and at the time that we heard it, we were most likely fuming over the milk spillage. But with time and a cool head we began to see the logic behind the statement. There is really nothing that can be done concerning situations that have already occurred outside of taking corrective measures. Corrective measures meaning, mending what can be mended or just simply learning by way of experience.
We often spend a large amount of time on regret. Regret that we allowed, and I use that term loosely, certain things to take place within our lives. Things that we most likely had absolutely no control over, but that's never been a good enough reason to stop us from self criticizing.
Reflecting on some of my own experiences, when I "spilled milk" I would have to get five different opinions on the matter and then I would over indulge in mental play, examining why I hadn't done what my fold of counselors would've done had they experienced the same thing, This is the least affective route.
It took several nights of worrying, anxiety, and even depression before I learned to no longer cry over spilled milk. Now I take a vastly different approach to dealing with these kind of situations. I allot myself no more than a day to regret and sob before I jump right into the following.
1. I acknowledge what's happened. No matter how upsetting it is, I have to accept it for what it is.
2. I find a way to either deal with it or fix it.
3. I learn from it.
I hope this will help someone to worry less and live more. Life is full of mishaps. It's all about how you deal with them that makes the difference.
There's nothing like wasted time. The one thing that you can't get back no matter how much you will for it. But even with this knowledge, we constantly watch as others willfully give time away, most often in dead-end relationships. By dead-end I mean, relationships that have an appointed end that both parties are aware of but refuse to acknowledge for the sake of familiarity, comfort, and fear. But placing time aside, how many of us suppress the very best of us by existing in complicated relationships where we're undervalued and unappreciated because that same convenient relationship only manifest the very worst of us.
How often have you witnessed someone transform from a dream to nightmare? I heard someone say that it's better to walk away from a relationship with your emotions still in tact versus leaving while bitter and angry because although you may be the victim of certain infidelities, you still don't want to be the one appearing to be crazy. I think we've all been there. When in bad situations, we find ourselves saying things that we normally wouldn't say, doing things that we normally wouldn't do, and overall becoming someone who we can't identify with. We hate it and then we find ourselves striving to become better people in impossible situations when it would be better if we just left.
In the beginning of most relationships turned bad, both parties see all of the things that they both love and enjoy in each other and the potential for even better manifestations. These are the good times. Sure, there are little corks that we notice but the good usually outweigh the bad until it doesn't. Time passes and in many instances, trust in broken. Expectations are let down. So all of those great qualities that we once loved become buried under all of the things that we despise. How quickly that can happen. I've loved hard. I had someone in my life who I could talk to about any and everything and felt totally comfortable with. I could be myself and some. We shared our hopes and dreams with one another and built a connection. But in a moment, trust was broken and all of the things that I once loved about him became hard to identify with. There was now too much hurt and while others would take notice of all of these great qualities about him, I'd forgotten about them. And after so long, they became completely lost.
I'm sure the same was with him. I was no longer the fun, free spirited girl that he loved because most of our nights were spent arguing and fighting so just like him, others still got a chance to witness those things that he once loved about me but that treasure was lost to him.
When you're in a relationship that's been so badly ruined and all measures have been taken to rebuild the foundation and nothing seems to work, is it better to stay because you know that person so well and dare not put yourself out into the world as being single again, or to simply just walk away? The answer is commonly found in the heart, and most commonly ignored. If the relationship is worth salvaging, then be honest, admit, forgive and move onward. Because lost treasure is even better once rediscovered.
How many of us go to sleep and awake with the expectation of making the next day better than the prior one? Constantly trying to improve until there's nothing left to improve. Not plausible, but greatly desired. I can admit that I fall short of meeting my own expectations daily and at one point, I use to feel horrible about it. But not as much lately. I've learned to take each day at a time and worry less about what may have not transpired within it. I used to work vehemently at making a list and doing everything within my power to complete it the next day and if anything fell short, I didn't do my part. Because in my mind, me completing those task would indicate that I was tactful, diligent, and responsible, thereby creating the perfect day. NO LONGER!
Life is literally something that is to be taken one day at a time. Things will happen outside of our control and we can't punish ourselves for them. Have a plan, push to execute, and if something doesn't happen to get done on that particular day, learn to be okay with it.
The major things to worry about are getting bills paid in a timely fashion because not only can that affect your current financial standing, it can cause monetary issues futuristically. So if there is a bill that needs to be paid, pay it and worry about the cleaners and errands later. It's also important to try and fulfill obligations that you've made to other parties. It would be better not to make any commitments that you may not be able to follow through on or at least make the person aware of a possible change of plans to enable them to create a backup plan.
In essence, we understand that you shouldn't put off until tomorrow what you can do today, but that doesn't apply to everything. Sort your task according to your availability and you'll be surprised at how much more you're able to get accomplished.
Laugh A Little
In a moments notice, you can go from tears of sadness to tears of joy brought on by a simple gift from God to humanity called laughter. According to an article published by helpguide.org, not only does laughter help to alter a bad mood but it can also be a strong medicine for your body and mind.
Laughter is good for your health