TAKING TIME FOR YOURSELF
When the phone stops ringing and there's no one knocking at your door, at first you begin to wonder where have all your friends gone, but then you become surprisingly okay with it. I strongly believe that the better parts of yourself are discovered when you're alone. It's like finding buried treasure and there's no greater journey than the one you embark upon to discover the most intimate detailing of who you really are.
During dating, we get so excited because we've met someone new and the possibilities seem infinite. You get to explore another persons lifestyle and it's thrilling because it's human nature to like new things. Even if it's something that's been around for ages, as long as it's new to us, there's a flair. For me, spending some time alone births that same gratification. I learn more about things that I like and don't like. When you're constantly surrounded by people, you sometimes begin to make a habit out their habits and a hobby out of their hobby. Have you ever been introduced to doing something and when you were doing it with that person, it was the greatest time ever, but when they became less present, you found yourself wondering why you'd started doing it in the first place? I have. I'm naturally an introvert so I've never taken a liking to the club atmosphere. But after associating myself with a different crowd, I found myself going much more often than I would've had I been out of their company. When you're hanging in groups, majority usually wins. So you find yourself partaking in things that you at one point in time detested. And it's not until you've separated yourself from the crowd that you realize how unfulfilled and unpleasable it all is before you make a conscious choice not to go back.
During those brief, silent moments that we have to ourselves, it becomes more and more evident that we've lost track of those things that we truly enjoy doing that aren't necessarily crowd pleasers. They often relax us and when we partake in them we find fulfillment. Businesses sometimes get started and entrepreneurs are birthed. So the next time the wind blows and you find yourself alone, don't look to break the silence, but embrace it.