A Matter of Opinion
Can people in relationships agree to disagree more often in a healthy way? Often time we find ourselves feuding over a matter of opinion, but is the time and energy worth it? Is your point of view so important that everyone has to agree with it or can you still exist peacefully with you on one side of a matter and your partner on the other? When it comes to rearing kids and establishing family principles viewpoints need to line up, but for me, the train can often stop there. Even in relationships, we still need to respect a persons individuality. Most relationships that have endured the test of time will attest to allowing your partner to be who they are freely and without judgement.
In essence, don't expect the one you're with to share every one of your perspectives but learn to appreciate the difference of opinions. You may awaken to a broadened horizon.
Toughing It Out
When life serves you lemons, it's okay to cry like hell and THEN make lemonade. We're often encouraged to be strong by those close to us when we're facing tough times but this advice can be narrow and frankly not very realistic. There's nothing like falling and while you yet lie on the ground, have a group of people yell at you to get up and be strong. Naturally when you fall, you rarely land on a soft surface, you're usually in a complete state of shock, and last but not least, you feel completely exposed which makes it completely acceptable for you to shed a few healthy tears. We've all cried so there is absolutely nothing for you to feel guilty about.
Our tears are a blessing from God. A good cry can lift a heavy burden off of your shoulders in a matter of minutes. It somehow calms you and allows sensibility to appear on the scene and do its work.
So the next time you find yourself experiencing a tough time, allow yourself to feel. If that involves crying, then let the rivers of life flow. The Bible says that God bottles our tears.
Peace and Love
Changing can be one of the most difficult aspects of life. We'd all love traveling this journey, utilizing the excuse that we're 'just this way' and there isn't much that can be done about it. That would definitely be more easy than altering your personality, perspective, and will. Over the past few years I've noticed how much I've changed, from my attitude to my body measurements with one growing in the wrong direction. But the actual results that I can visibly see from changing my attitude took years. Thinking about that particular change caused me to arrive at the realization that change doesn't happen over night. It is truly a process.
So whether you're just now realizing the need to make some changes within your life, please understand that it'll take time and sometimes repeated failure. Me and the scale have been going back in forward for a while now, but I can honestly say that over the years I've incorporated way more natural foods like fruits and vegetables to my diet. So I'm no longer just dieting but actually making some serious lifestyle changes.
In essence, don't be overwhelmingly discouraged when you don't see immediate results. Change sometimes can be a long journey but definitely one worth taking.
Another Day to do Better
We can't always control everything that happens within our day, but we can make provisions for the next one. When we experience disappointments we often internalize them and anticipate for things to go wrong on a daily basis, settling for spurts of goodness. It doesn't have to be this way.
At the end of each day it is important to take some time and reflect on the things that took place in it. If something happened that you're unhappy with and it's in your power to produce a different result, prepare to do that when faced with that particular circumstance again. This will stop a lot of repeating the same bad situations over and over again. We tend to never learn how to deal with our daily issues because we don't take the time out to analyze them. Venting is one thing, but taking the initiative to fix them is another.
So before you go to sleep tonight, meditate a little, read a little, and pray. Many clouds of confusion may be removed. You'll be surprised to know that most problems are solved when it's just you and God.
Thanks for reading.
It's A New Day....Start Fresh
Sometimes in the morning when we first wake up, we immediately begin to dwell on the day before. This can throw off our day in the worse way so instead of dwelling on the pass, choose to use the new sun rising as a fresh new start.
There is a scripture that speaks on remembering not the things of old and I find that to be the best advice when facing regret. So don't slumber in your previous mishaps, but move on and grow from them. Happy Saturday!
Some things you just have to face alone. I know, sounds tough. But certain things need to be toughed out. It's nothing like coming out on the other end of a thing and not owing anyone gratitude but yourself and God. Our dependency has to be less on the people we surround ourselves with and more on our source, our Creator. Outside of what God has already equipped us with to deal with life's matters, he's also made provisions for us through prayer, fasting, and meditation. This is where I'm at at this point in my life. I'm choosing to stay before him with all of my concerns, worries, and stresses. I don't need nor do I desire to reach out to anyone besides the one who created me for guidance. Now that isn't to say that at this time in my life that I'm worried about anything, often times it's just necessary to work on your spiritual connections by disconnecting from everyone and everything else. In other words, I'm disconnecting to stay connected and I'm doing it all with love. Peace
Pray. Believe. Achieve
I don't believe that I've ever felt the desire to change as much as I feel right now. A total recharge of my mind, body, and soul is so necessary at this point in my life and I can no longer ignore the call to make those changes immediately. My body has been telling me for over a year now to change my diet. Our physical man depends on certain vitamins and nutrients to stay healthy and ward off diseases and when there's a lack of those, we feel it. We feel exhausted, grumpy, bloated, hurt, tired and the list goes on. Instead of stopping and taking the necessary steps to give it what it needs, we complain about the ailments that we develop and continue abusing ourselves over and over again.
Our mind and spirit work the same way. When we become over burdened with things, it tends to affect us in ways that we can't image. Our basic day to day task become obstacle courses, boggled down with a fleet of unnecessary thoughts and worries.
Well this is what my life has been feeling like lately and I just can't do it anymore and if you've been feeling this way, you shouldn't either. I've decided to go on a 21 day fast from all processed foods and meat. Basically, I will be consuming only raw foods. Although I've made several attempts in the past to do this, now it's no longer an option. I don't think that I can another week causing anymore harm to myself than I've already done. We have to take accountability for some of the ailments that we have because of our way of living. Our lack of discipline has created a personal environment of pleasure seeking. We fill ourselves with unhealthy food, thoughts, and wonder why we lack peace. Emptying ourselves of the toxins that we've accumulated overtime will begin to free us in all kind of ways.
I can't wait to start this journey tomorrow and if you've been feeling as bad as I have lately, I'm hoping that you'll walk this path with me and document it. I'll be posting regularly on how things are going so stay toned.
Peace and Love folks
Laugh, Cry, Breathe, Write
As I take this journey, I constantly find myself doubting if I'm taking the right steps. Nothing has to be going wrong when these thoughts of insecurity arise but I still allow them to steal my focus away from the thing in which I'm trying to accomplish. In this, I know I'm not alone. Many people who have started their own businesses or set their minds to accomplish a goal have experienced this same kind of doubt, but instead of calling it doubt, I will just say fear.
Often when we step out on faith, we start out strong and courageous. Then somewhere down the line we start to feel anxiety. Is it possible for me to actually succeed? The answer is Yes! The fear and anxiety that we experience is due to us finally breaking away from what others have told us we could do. So when we're faced with an opportunity to excel beyond that point, we self doubt. When those feelings arise, it's up to us to speak life and affirm within that "I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me" (Philippians 4:13). We have the power to take control over our thoughts and turn them around for our betterment.
So as we take our separate paths, remember that doubt doesn't mean stop. Keep going, keep pressing. You're steps away from living your purpose.
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Patience. The word that you undoubtedly don't want to hear when a long awaited desire has yet more time to blossom. The idea of planting appears to be very serene. And it is for those who don't mind waiting through the process. But to a person with very little patience or who lacks the ability to wait on manifestation, it soon becomes an old hobby quick. Unfortunately, we tend to treat the important things in our life the same way. We see the importance in working hard to reap the due reward but still find ourselves complaining throughout the entire waiting process.
Whether we know what the end result will be or not, waiting is difficult. We live within a society that promotes a 'right now' mentality. Everything that we need is being manufactured to be at our fingertips. You don't want to wait in line, order online. You don't want to wait five to ten business days, order express shipping. Nothing seems to be worth waiting for now and days. We don't want to wait for food, travel, or love but what is it that we think we're missing out on if we don't get these things immediately?
I sit and contemplate on the way that I act sometimes and I amaze myself at how unraveled I become when I want something but then I'm told, that I would have to wait. I ask myself, 'do you really need that today and will you be okay without it'? Outside of health concerns, we should all work daily to be more patient because majority of the things that we lack patience for we don't need anyway. Is that cheeseburger really going to provide you with that much satisfaction? Simply wait. Forget what society tells you and search out the more important things going on around you and trust, these small matters will become even smaller.
So the next time that you're in a position of waiting, and you will, please remember to be still and to be quiet. Good things come to those who wait. The Bible teaches that patience is virtuous. Be patient. Peace
The inability to see the finish product when pursuing certain goals can cause an enormous amount of doubt to creep in. I'm currently experiencing this within my own life as I begin to make certain lifestyle changes when it comes to my diet and the way I chose to spend my time. At the beginning of each week I make a decision to watch my spending by spending less on eating out. The benefits of this change alone will be life altering but because I can't see the end results, it's easy for me to stray off course. As of late, this hasn't been the case. I had to literally take a good look at myself before I was able to make the necessary changes to reach my goals in spite of not being able to see the end results. I focused my attention on why I was eating so much and once I discovered that, I was able to address those issues and stop.
Sometimes it helps to pinpoint what exactly is detouring you when it comes to finishing something that you've started. If it's a general lack of motivation, begin to find ways to motivate yourself. Follow those on social media who have made it to where you aspire to be. Read articles daily about those who have made the same accomplishments. It's also good to envision the change that you want to see. The mind is a powerful tool when trying to accomplish goals. Now this can either work for you or work against you. Have you heard that in the mind is where it all begins? Well if you doubt yourself then you've killed your motivational jump start right there. So begin to envision yourself with the task in mind completed. Over time you'll see the end results.
It's also good to remember that consistency is key. So now that you have your goals written down, it's time to make them materialize by staying on task and moving further even when you don't feel like it. The payoff is soon to follow.
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