Another Day to do Better
We can't always control everything that happens within our day, but we can make provisions for the next one. When we experience disappointments we often internalize them and anticipate for things to go wrong on a daily basis, settling for spurts of goodness. It doesn't have to be this way.
At the end of each day it is important to take some time and reflect on the things that took place in it. If something happened that you're unhappy with and it's in your power to produce a different result, prepare to do that when faced with that particular circumstance again. This will stop a lot of repeating the same bad situations over and over again. We tend to never learn how to deal with our daily issues because we don't take the time out to analyze them. Venting is one thing, but taking the initiative to fix them is another.
So before you go to sleep tonight, meditate a little, read a little, and pray. Many clouds of confusion may be removed. You'll be surprised to know that most problems are solved when it's just you and God.
Thanks for reading.
It's A New Day....Start Fresh
Sometimes in the morning when we first wake up, we immediately begin to dwell on the day before. This can throw off our day in the worse way so instead of dwelling on the pass, choose to use the new sun rising as a fresh new start.
There is a scripture that speaks on remembering not the things of old and I find that to be the best advice when facing regret. So don't slumber in your previous mishaps, but move on and grow from them. Happy Saturday!
Some things you just have to face alone. I know, sounds tough. But certain things need to be toughed out. It's nothing like coming out on the other end of a thing and not owing anyone gratitude but yourself and God. Our dependency has to be less on the people we surround ourselves with and more on our source, our Creator. Outside of what God has already equipped us with to deal with life's matters, he's also made provisions for us through prayer, fasting, and meditation. This is where I'm at at this point in my life. I'm choosing to stay before him with all of my concerns, worries, and stresses. I don't need nor do I desire to reach out to anyone besides the one who created me for guidance. Now that isn't to say that at this time in my life that I'm worried about anything, often times it's just necessary to work on your spiritual connections by disconnecting from everyone and everything else. In other words, I'm disconnecting to stay connected and I'm doing it all with love. Peace
Pray. Believe. Achieve
I don't believe that I've ever felt the desire to change as much as I feel right now. A total recharge of my mind, body, and soul is so necessary at this point in my life and I can no longer ignore the call to make those changes immediately. My body has been telling me for over a year now to change my diet. Our physical man depends on certain vitamins and nutrients to stay healthy and ward off diseases and when there's a lack of those, we feel it. We feel exhausted, grumpy, bloated, hurt, tired and the list goes on. Instead of stopping and taking the necessary steps to give it what it needs, we complain about the ailments that we develop and continue abusing ourselves over and over again.
Our mind and spirit work the same way. When we become over burdened with things, it tends to affect us in ways that we can't image. Our basic day to day task become obstacle courses, boggled down with a fleet of unnecessary thoughts and worries.
Well this is what my life has been feeling like lately and I just can't do it anymore and if you've been feeling this way, you shouldn't either. I've decided to go on a 21 day fast from all processed foods and meat. Basically, I will be consuming only raw foods. Although I've made several attempts in the past to do this, now it's no longer an option. I don't think that I can another week causing anymore harm to myself than I've already done. We have to take accountability for some of the ailments that we have because of our way of living. Our lack of discipline has created a personal environment of pleasure seeking. We fill ourselves with unhealthy food, thoughts, and wonder why we lack peace. Emptying ourselves of the toxins that we've accumulated overtime will begin to free us in all kind of ways.
I can't wait to start this journey tomorrow and if you've been feeling as bad as I have lately, I'm hoping that you'll walk this path with me and document it. I'll be posting regularly on how things are going so stay toned.
Peace and Love folks
Laugh, Cry, Breathe, Write
As I take this journey, I constantly find myself doubting if I'm taking the right steps. Nothing has to be going wrong when these thoughts of insecurity arise but I still allow them to steal my focus away from the thing in which I'm trying to accomplish. In this, I know I'm not alone. Many people who have started their own businesses or set their minds to accomplish a goal have experienced this same kind of doubt, but instead of calling it doubt, I will just say fear.
Often when we step out on faith, we start out strong and courageous. Then somewhere down the line we start to feel anxiety. Is it possible for me to actually succeed? The answer is Yes! The fear and anxiety that we experience is due to us finally breaking away from what others have told us we could do. So when we're faced with an opportunity to excel beyond that point, we self doubt. When those feelings arise, it's up to us to speak life and affirm within that "I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me" (Philippians 4:13). We have the power to take control over our thoughts and turn them around for our betterment.
So as we take our separate paths, remember that doubt doesn't mean stop. Keep going, keep pressing. You're steps away from living your purpose.
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Patience. The word that you undoubtedly don't want to hear when a long awaited desire has yet more time to blossom. The idea of planting appears to be very serene. And it is for those who don't mind waiting through the process. But to a person with very little patience or who lacks the ability to wait on manifestation, it soon becomes an old hobby quick. Unfortunately, we tend to treat the important things in our life the same way. We see the importance in working hard to reap the due reward but still find ourselves complaining throughout the entire waiting process.
Whether we know what the end result will be or not, waiting is difficult. We live within a society that promotes a 'right now' mentality. Everything that we need is being manufactured to be at our fingertips. You don't want to wait in line, order online. You don't want to wait five to ten business days, order express shipping. Nothing seems to be worth waiting for now and days. We don't want to wait for food, travel, or love but what is it that we think we're missing out on if we don't get these things immediately?
I sit and contemplate on the way that I act sometimes and I amaze myself at how unraveled I become when I want something but then I'm told, that I would have to wait. I ask myself, 'do you really need that today and will you be okay without it'? Outside of health concerns, we should all work daily to be more patient because majority of the things that we lack patience for we don't need anyway. Is that cheeseburger really going to provide you with that much satisfaction? Simply wait. Forget what society tells you and search out the more important things going on around you and trust, these small matters will become even smaller.
So the next time that you're in a position of waiting, and you will, please remember to be still and to be quiet. Good things come to those who wait. The Bible teaches that patience is virtuous. Be patient. Peace
The inability to see the finish product when pursuing certain goals can cause an enormous amount of doubt to creep in. I'm currently experiencing this within my own life as I begin to make certain lifestyle changes when it comes to my diet and the way I chose to spend my time. At the beginning of each week I make a decision to watch my spending by spending less on eating out. The benefits of this change alone will be life altering but because I can't see the end results, it's easy for me to stray off course. As of late, this hasn't been the case. I had to literally take a good look at myself before I was able to make the necessary changes to reach my goals in spite of not being able to see the end results. I focused my attention on why I was eating so much and once I discovered that, I was able to address those issues and stop.
Sometimes it helps to pinpoint what exactly is detouring you when it comes to finishing something that you've started. If it's a general lack of motivation, begin to find ways to motivate yourself. Follow those on social media who have made it to where you aspire to be. Read articles daily about those who have made the same accomplishments. It's also good to envision the change that you want to see. The mind is a powerful tool when trying to accomplish goals. Now this can either work for you or work against you. Have you heard that in the mind is where it all begins? Well if you doubt yourself then you've killed your motivational jump start right there. So begin to envision yourself with the task in mind completed. Over time you'll see the end results.
It's also good to remember that consistency is key. So now that you have your goals written down, it's time to make them materialize by staying on task and moving further even when you don't feel like it. The payoff is soon to follow.
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Social Media Woes
Have you ever scrolled through your social media feeds to see everyone living blissfully and then just experience an overwhelming feeling of anxiety, regret, and depression? No? Well many others have. The idea that everyone around them lives are going so great causes them to reflect on everything that they wish they had. The usual triggers are those relationship post, travel post, and overall LOOK HOW GREAT MY LIFE is post! But think about it, if one was to take a quick glance at your online album, what would be their impression of your life? Wouldn't they assume that your sunny day photo shoot just before walking into work with your overly priced expresso indicate that one, you're happy about going to work, two that you have a great job, and three that you must be doing alright financially if your morning routine includes a Starbucks stop. You see how easily misleading that image can become once dissected and overly analyzed because in reality, you may be underpaid over budget and that expresso was just your guilty pleasure for the week.
Consider for a moment where these social media sites got their start. Many would hope that its creation was another technological advancement created with the intent of connecting people to one another. Unfortunately, it hasn't, once you consider the actual amount of time that people spend disconnecting from the people that they actually know. Consider what you've done to that friend who calls you on your weekend off. As you're scrolling through your social media feed, you see a very cute family photo of them and so you decide to hit the approved button called 'like,' they see it in their activities list and thereafter decide to call to actually speak with you personally. You see the call, you contemplate the level of offense that's about to take place but yet and still, you send them to voicemail disconnecting yourself from a more personable form of communication. So considering how you yourself neglect actual relationship building, it's now safe to ask why exactly you have a social media account? Were you subconsciously hoping to get a glimpse of what you preceive to be a better life or to pretend that you were leaving one yourself? Are you creating an illusion?
We often find ourselves judging others for the exact same things that we're guilty of.
When did it become so important for us to brand ourselves as perfect? In this world that we live in, consumerism has created a platform for the disillusioned to prove how happy they are based upon their material possessions and what can be displayed over the body with little to no regard for the inner man, the spirit. Our unhappiness stems from not partaking in the ritual of 'have'. Yes. The ads will send a subliminal message to you that if you don't have this certain product, that somehow you're missing out. It creates a want. Never will you see an advertisement that says,"You may not need this" or "This isn't for everyone." No, that wouldn't be profitable so the idea is to get as many people as possible to now need something that they could live perfectly without and now we're trained to do the same, only we're not being paid to do it.
Now, not only social media is bad. There are benefits to finding friends who you haven't seen in a while and reconnecting with people but its intent becomes distorted when we begin to turn to it for the purposes of comparing our lives to one another or for seeking validation. Enjoy this modern technique of communicating moderately and appropriately. A lot of your comparing can be vastly minimized by just deleting the people from your social feed who you aren't social with at all.
So the next time that you happen to find yourself seeking motivation or inspiration and you wonder onto social media, stop! Those images are strategically placed there, majority of the time, to generate a false sense of validation. Instead, look for encouragement in scripture. Seek motivation from close friends and family. Get inspired by making a list of goals and accomplishing them one by one. You can be happy too. Truly happy.
Everything that I need is not outside of me
There are so many advertisements for seemingly everything that we need (or think we need) being sent to our ear and eye gates, from the time that we pick up our morning newspaper, to when we get inside our cars. There's literally someone constantly reminding us of how imperfect we are and how their product will help us get to an impossible state of being. Very rarely, almost never, will you see a clear and visible sign saying just look within. It profits a corporation nothing to make consumers aware that they don't have to spend all their resources (I use that term loosely) to be fulfilled, so it becomes our job to be more conscious of the things that we truly need and to also decipher what’s to be let go.
Think about what is truly needed to survive. Food, water, shelter will of course be the basics, so where did electronics, excessive clothing, and the other material possessions come from? If I've learned anything, it’s that corporations who make advertisements don’t do so to adhere to consumer’s desires but more so to CREATE them. Growing up, I never knew that I needed to have an Atari to complete my Saturday mornings until Atari manufacturers contacted the marketing department and created an entire advertising campaign around me sitting in the the house versus me going outside and doing something more productive and creative. I never thought about playing a video game because I didn’t know what it was until they told me. So Atari never sought to help me out by adhering to something that I wanted, they created the want. They inadvertently told me that if I had this gaming system, I would feel happy…so I must not be happy already, right? WRONG!!! The same thing happens over and over and over to all of us on a day to day basis. Had an Atari commercial never aired, my Saturday mornings would’ve continued to be the same joyful experience that it’d always been. For a child, that may be hard to understand but what about us? We spend much of time working to acquire things that an ad told us would help us be more fulfilled. If I only had this, or that, or this, I would be good. But if ads control your spending patterns, what happens when a new flood of them comes around again and they will. A new desire will be created, making you unhappy with what you currently have, and you’ll find yourself at the exact same place that you were before. So how do we change this pattern of thinking and escape the maze? Simply by searching within ourselves for what we truly need and already have access to.
When was the last time that you looked within yourself to see what’s going on, on the inside? Something like a checkup. Where you just sat quietly and evaluated how you were truly doing? I usually find myself doing this after prayer. If something has been constantly bothering me or if I just need to have that time alone with myself and my creator, I spend some time in prayer (which is a daily practice for the most part), I then meditate, and afterwards I may read the scripture. But what I find is that in those quiet moments is where I learn the most about myself and where I’m able to develop an opinion, diagnosis, and prescription. If we calmly just evaluate the things that have been bothering us, then we’ll see and hear the answers to our concerns more clearly. We won’t rely on a group of people to tell us what we need or provide a false sense of hope.
So the next time that you find yourself spending uncontrollably to fill a void, look within. You may just be due for a checkup.
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Unexpected Life Changes
Things happen and then change follows. We know the routine because we've lived it several times but even with previous experience, unexpected life changes still stagnate us. That's perfectly okay for a time but it becomes a problem when the season has changed and you're still being held back due to something that occurred several months or even years ago.
If you find yourself halted for a long duration of time brought on by various circumstances, it may be time to look at what happened, why it may have happened, and what has materialized from it. Death is a natural occurrence that can't always be explained but even in that, we ourselves must keep living. The loss of a job, relationship, or friend may happen, and although we may believe at that time that we can't live without certain things and people, those experiences usually teach us that we can.
Allow the changes that you've experienced in life to mature you enough to then, plant a seed and water it, to enable the growth of someone else. In 1 Corinthians Paul's says, " I planted, Apollos watered; but God gave the increase." There's someone waiting on your 'overcomer' journey, you only need to take it.