There's nothing like wasted time. The one thing that you can't get back no matter how much you will for it. But even with this knowledge, we constantly watch as others willfully give time away, most often in dead-end relationships. By dead-end I mean, relationships that have an appointed end that both parties are aware of but refuse to acknowledge for the sake of familiarity, comfort, and fear. But placing time aside, how many of us suppress the very best of us by existing in complicated relationships where we're undervalued and unappreciated because that same convenient relationship only manifest the very worst of us.
How often have you witnessed someone transform from a dream to nightmare? I heard someone say that it's better to walk away from a relationship with your emotions still in tact versus leaving while bitter and angry because although you may be the victim of certain infidelities, you still don't want to be the one appearing to be crazy. I think we've all been there. When in bad situations, we find ourselves saying things that we normally wouldn't say, doing things that we normally wouldn't do, and overall becoming someone who we can't identify with. We hate it and then we find ourselves striving to become better people in impossible situations when it would be better if we just left.
In the beginning of most relationships turned bad, both parties see all of the things that they both love and enjoy in each other and the potential for even better manifestations. These are the good times. Sure, there are little corks that we notice but the good usually outweigh the bad until it doesn't. Time passes and in many instances, trust in broken. Expectations are let down. So all of those great qualities that we once loved become buried under all of the things that we despise. How quickly that can happen. I've loved hard. I had someone in my life who I could talk to about any and everything and felt totally comfortable with. I could be myself and some. We shared our hopes and dreams with one another and built a connection. But in a moment, trust was broken and all of the things that I once loved about him became hard to identify with. There was now too much hurt and while others would take notice of all of these great qualities about him, I'd forgotten about them. And after so long, they became completely lost.
I'm sure the same was with him. I was no longer the fun, free spirited girl that he loved because most of our nights were spent arguing and fighting so just like him, others still got a chance to witness those things that he once loved about me but that treasure was lost to him.
When you're in a relationship that's been so badly ruined and all measures have been taken to rebuild the foundation and nothing seems to work, is it better to stay because you know that person so well and dare not put yourself out into the world as being single again, or to simply just walk away? The answer is commonly found in the heart, and most commonly ignored. If the relationship is worth salvaging, then be honest, admit, forgive and move onward. Because lost treasure is even better once rediscovered.