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interest piqued: how long to wait before you meet

8/30/2020

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It can be a little tricky trying to decipher the appropriate time to meet someone in person who you have met online. There is the safety concern factor accompanied with the desire to get the feel of someone new in person, to see if you would like things to progress to the next level. Whatever the case may be, there are a few indicators that you may be ready for that next step.

1# How is the conversation

Experiencing an immediate connection with someone isn't always easy, so if your phone conversations have been great, it could be an indication that you'll enjoy each other's company even more. It's pleasurable interacting with someone over the phone but even better when you're in their presence.

2# Do you feel comfortable meeting them in person

Sometimes when you talk to a person on a consistent basis and have shared intimate details about yourself, you can get the feeling that you've known them your entire life. There is a sense of familiarity that starts to take root. If there is any doubt within your mind about meeting up, then it's always best to trust your gut. 

3# Is the other person as ready as you are

Everyone has the right to move at their own pace. Some people like to talk for a while to reveal intentions, whilst others may want an immediate physical encounter to better feel the person out. Whatever the case may be, you should always consider the other parties' feelings. There has to be some form of compromising. If the waiting period for some is three weeks, then it should be respected. After all, aren't good things worth waiting for?

There's no perfect answer to the question of when you should meet up with someone, some things are just situational. My personal perspective would be to take it slow, perhaps look at your previous experiences and let that guide you. But most importantly, you have to be safe. There is nothing wrong with meeting with a few friends the first go round.  Happy dating guys!

Thanks for reading!

Davina S.

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Kidd link
8/31/2020 04:18:32 pm

Extremely interesting and intriguing piece of literature. You mentioned “How is the conversation.” I agree wholeheartedly when you convey having an immediate connection with someone isn't always easy. Speaking for myself, I’m the most talkative cat over the phone but in person I become nervous or quiet, especially when meeting you for the first time. I believe I’ve always projected pleasurable interacting over the phone but need to warm up to physical presence of any individual.

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Davina
8/31/2020 05:38:58 pm

Same here. That first time is really something!!

Thanks for reading and sharing!

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Erik
8/31/2020 07:39:18 pm

You've done it again.... always focusing on truth and safety. I definitely agree with starting out with conversation. That's where the building blocks of interest begin and I guess for some, the background check...lol
I most definitely agree with the safety portion of your material. Thats why I'm all for the woman driving her own vehicle and picking the meeting spot. If things go sour, you or him can just get up and go... of course always go DUTCH....

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Davina
8/31/2020 07:44:33 pm

True! You have to be careful out here. And that actually goes both men and women.

Thanks for reading Erik!

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Christal H.
9/1/2020 04:44:26 am

Great piece on enlightening the dating community Davina! I love the title of your blog as well!

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Although this is not an experience that i have ever encountered “online dating” it does allow the person to get to know a person’s heart first. Conversations is a vital piece in order to gage a person’s thoughts and interests. Communication is a key factor in any relationship. If someone is not able to effectively communicate....how would you be able to build on a foundation.

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Davina
9/1/2020 05:37:11 am

Exactly Christal! Those are my exact sentiments.
Thanks for commenting and reading!

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KeeKee
9/1/2020 09:43:14 am

This sounds on point. The biggest concern with me would be safety. But sometimes it seems like online is a good idea to meet. However the biggest factor should be respect one other when are you respecting each other's differences then it can help each others comfort zone. And learn each other more without feeling pressured.

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Davina
9/1/2020 11:47:28 am

I agree 100% in regards to respecting each other’s differences.

Thanks for reading and commenting KeeKee!!!

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