How many times have you encountered a person who believes, with all reasoning, that their bad behavior and disrespect of others should be excusable because of various circumstances? We've all had or still have friends who often come off as ill tempered, spoiled little brats at times and when asked why they so carelessly disregard the feelings of their peers, point to everyone but themselves. People who hurt other people just because they feel as though they've been hurt are selfish individuals who need a reality check because we've all been hurt, but some are just a little more mature about not afflicting our discontentment upon others.
There's nothing more hurtful than being there for someone on a consistent basis, no matter what, and in return have them hang up on you, speak badly to you, or betray your trust only to fulfill the need to project versus deal with what they're currently experiencing. A selfish person will commonly mistreat others as a coping mechanism and never quite realize that they're doing it if no one actually tells them. These people often go on for years offending family members, strangers, and friends who except them because they believe that some people are just like that, but what they really are, are people who hold no accountability. But wouldn't the world and more specifically, your life, be more pleasantly operable if we gently made them aware of their sometimes outlandish behavior? After all, these people are usually great people when they're not being not so great people. And you wonder and fight with yourself when you're considering a disconnection, how awesome they would be if only they weren't so rude. I know a lot of wonderful people when they're being wonderful, turn into something gross when they're behavioral pattern become that of a toddler.
The easiest and effective way of dealing with harmed people who harm innocent bystanders is to be straight and upfront with them. Be honest about your feelings and what their behavior is doing to the relationship. Two things will happen, they will either become more aware of the way their treating you and change or just simply put, they won't. Then it becomes your choice to keep someone in your life who disregards your feelings and disrespects you or to have enough respect for yourself to walk away until circumstances change.