Yesterday was so eye opening for me. I experienced an array of emotions that had been lying dormant and it had come time to acknowledge them. I never really thought about how I presented myself to others, which often left me feeling undervalued but solely because I allowed them to place a value on me. And let’s be honest, when you’re on the paying side you’ll always try and get the most for the cheapest price. That works well for the buyer but the recipient is left feeling duped.
For a moment, I blamed my feelings on hunger. But when I examined them a little further, there was actually some validity to the way in which I was feeling. I have spent a good portion of my life getting paid in compliments. You have friends who tell you that you’re smart and how much they appreciate all of the different skills that you possess but never offer to pay you for all of said talents. You have employers who openly acknowledge what you bring to the table that they eat from and then reward you by hoping that you don’t ask for a pay increase. Well, I may lose some friends and maybe even a few jobs but I will not be afraid to acknowledge my worth.
If I’m the only one who you can think of when it comes to getting something done, then pay me accordingly for it.
Some time ago the world was on a barter and trade system where currency was utilized as an exchange for services rendered. So amongst friends, I can totally relate to a “I help you and you help me system”. But if the transactions are always leaving you with doing the service and only saying thank you, it may be time to disconnect those services. A thank you is often appreciated but if the other person walks away feeling as though they were used, then it wasn’t a fair exchange.
With that being said, my new outlook on things is to be upfront about what you expect in return for using your skills and talents for the gratification of others. Don’t minimize yourself and maximize others. We’re good at telling others how much they’re worth but when it comes to making others acknowledge our value, we grow silent. No more intimidation. Go and get what’s yours!
Enjoy this day!