Yesterday was so eye opening for me. I experienced an array of emotions that had been lying dormant and it had come time to acknowledge them. I never really thought about how I presented myself to others, which often left me feeling undervalued but solely because I allowed them to place a value on me. And let’s be honest, when you’re on the paying side you’ll always try and get the most for the cheapest price. That works well for the buyer but the recipient is left feeling duped.
For a moment, I blamed my feelings on hunger. But when I examined them a little further, there was actually some validity to the way in which I was feeling. I have spent a good portion of my life getting paid in compliments. You have friends who tell you that you’re smart and how much they appreciate all of the different skills that you possess but never offer to pay you for all of said talents. You have employers who openly acknowledge what you bring to the table that they eat from and then reward you by hoping that you don’t ask for a pay increase. Well, I may lose some friends and maybe even a few jobs but I will not be afraid to acknowledge my worth. If I’m the only one who you can think of when it comes to getting something done, then pay me accordingly for it. Some time ago the world was on a barter and trade system where currency was utilized as an exchange for services rendered. So amongst friends, I can totally relate to a “I help you and you help me system”. But if the transactions are always leaving you with doing the service and only saying thank you, it may be time to disconnect those services. A thank you is often appreciated but if the other person walks away feeling as though they were used, then it wasn’t a fair exchange. With that being said, my new outlook on things is to be upfront about what you expect in return for using your skills and talents for the gratification of others. Don’t minimize yourself and maximize others. We’re good at telling others how much they’re worth but when it comes to making others acknowledge our value, we grow silent. No more intimidation. Go and get what’s yours! Enjoy this day! Davina S.
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Good morning all! This is day 2 of my liquids only fast that I’ve embarked upon to detach from my unhealthy attachment to food. I watched a cartoon years ago where one of the characters said to his friends that were about to raid the refrigerators of the humans near by, “We eat to survive but they survive to eat.” Now although this was a children’s animation, it resonated with me and another adult who was watching. With so many different quick food options available to us, we tend to not recognize how much garbage we consume within a week. But we do recognize the missing hundreds towards the end of the month.
Now I can’t say that we don’t get the warning signals sounding off within our minds telling us to slow down. After those signals are ignored is when you know that you’re in need of a self check. I’m self checking! Enjoy this day. I will be posting more this afternoon. Blessings Davina S. **************************************************** FOLLOW UP It’s 12:40 PM and I must say that I am a little grumpy bear. It’s crazy how your attitude can shift so quickly. I hope this feeling is super temporary because me no likey. Off to drink my green juice and do some mindful praying. Lately I’ve had such an unhealthy obsession with food to the point where I feel like I may need a break. Yes a break from eating. Four years ago, fasting wasn’t such a big issue especially if it was spiritually driven but as of late, spiritual or not, I haven’t been able to deny myself. Today is the day where I put myself totally on blast.
I’m attempting to do a 3 day liquid fast in order to reset. I have a few bad habits that I need to break and some “house” cleaning that’s overdue. If you feel like you could use a break whether it’s one day, two days or three, join me. Let’s see where these baby steps take us. Leave all comments of your experience or any questions that you may have for me below. Thanks! Enjoy this day with a smile. Davina S. *********************************************FOLLOW UP I took my lunch at around 1:30 and I wasn’t really hungry due to the cup of joe that I had this morning. I spent that time praying and meditating. I stayed clear of wondering through social media, mostly because I didn’t want to see any food images. Its 7:58 PM now and I just finished juicing for tonight and tomorrow morning. I plan on doing more praying and meditating and some light reading. Day 1 Good morning all. I used to be one of those people who woke up just to worry about everything that I could change along with everything that I couldn’t. Just a worry box. There were so many down days within my life at that time because worry produces so much stress and then you start to create unhealthy habits to then cope with the stress. Just throw the stress away!!!
If you’re dealing with something that can’t be changed, create mechanisms of acceptance. That may involve tapping into some uncharted emotional territory but it’ll be worth it. Write it out. Pray about it until you release it. If you’re dealing with something that you can change, take the first step and acknowledge what you’ve done. Give yourself some credit. And then take another one. I hope this helped someone. Enjoy this day. Davina S. |
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