While some of us have known what we've wanted to be since the tender age of four, there's a greater number who had absolutely no clue as to what was to become of us. I'm partially apart of both groups. I've always loved writing but that didn't stop me from acquiring a degree in something totally different. You know what you like and enjoy doing but then you're faced with the hard reality of questioning if you can actually sustain a living doing it. That is when we usually become indecisive about our career choice. We're taught early on to go for what pays the big bucks by those who don't want the responsibility of taking care of us for the rest of our lives. So we then enroll in college with the hopes that the major we choose will pay off big enough for us to land a good paying job immediately upon graduating. But what happens when that plan doesn't work out so perfectly, and you end up working a job that you're unhappy with? With no room to hit the restart button, how do you get to a place where you're absolutely fulfilled and you're pleased versus your nonexistent guardian?



I've been in a place in my life in which I felt this way. I knew exactly what I wanted to do but didn't quite have a plan to make into something lucrative. Not having my desired job made my week appear more extensive and created any environment that I was in, a little dismal. It wasn't until I got tired of myself that I began to draw out of myself to create the life that I wanted for myself. I wanted to write so I wrote and that was that. There was no longer any excuse that would be good enough for me not to. While I worked the job to the best of my abilities that was paying my bills, I pursued my passion.



If you're currently finding yourself unfulfilled and feeling sort of blah about your present situation, remember something that you've done that has made you the absolute happiest. It doesn't matter whether you've made a penny off of it or not. At this point, you're looking for fulfillment. Do a little research on it and see if you can possibly make an income from it, just START somewhere.



You're here, so you might as well enjoy it!



Davina S.

We've all dealt with the right away syndrome. Where you wanted something and just had to have it immediately, but upon receiving it, acknowledged that it was something that you probably should've waited on. Well a healthy relationship is no different. We often try and rush this particularly. At some point I ask, what's the rush? Is it an age thing, a lonely thing, or a time thing? Understandably, if you've been dating someone for over a year without a definite relationship title, then of course that warrants some expressed attention. But what of those who meet people and immediately want the relationship title before they've taken the proper time to see if that person is even relationship material, according to what it is that they're looking for.

Majority of the time, when things like a relationship are rushed, it crumbles before it's built. I'm a strong believer in a sinewy foundation and therefore like to spend a large amount of time with the person in whom I'm building a connection with. After all, at 30 and up, we're usually dating to marry and you want be sure that the person is someone who'd you want to take that life journey with.

If you're rushing a relationship, you should look at why you're rushing it and why the other person is not? Are you more invested in it then they are? Or perhaps they never even considered things going beyond a casual point, and in this case, you should consider your exit options because if you're looking to be someone's Mr. or Mrs., this will only be a waste of time. Eventually you'll have to settle with spending some time with yourself and ladies and gents, THIS ISN'T A BAD THING! It's actually fantastic. When someone meets you after you've discovered who you are and you're happy with it, they'll be happy with it! You'll no longer need that affirmation from various individuals who probably haven't discovered themselves yet.

In essence, wait. In your waiting you're not waiting on someone else to arrive, but you're waiting on YOU to arrive. Don't you think that you're worth patiently waiting for?

Love yourself first

Davina S.

Have you ever sought forgiveness from someone, only to have your apology and their forgiveness placed on hold? When we sin against God, He only requires us to seek forgiveness once. So why then are we obligated, by others, to request forgiveness from them over and over again? Is it humanly possible to forgive when petitioned only once?

Understandably, it is much easier to ask for forgiveness than it is to render it because, undoubtedly, some form of hurt or anguish has been experienced. When we choose to harbor ill feelings towards someone, we tend to hold them captive beyond the place of accountability, and forfeit the learning potential to grow through situations in spite of uncomfortability. When we choose to hold on, instead of healing and releasing it, we extend the healing process causing a reoccurence of bitterness over and over again. Undealt resentment can also cause one to connect a person with negative feelings, when if forgiveness has taken place, disassociates them from it.

If you are the person seeking forgiveness, I first would advise you to pray about it and then to leave it there. Forgive yourself once an apology has been rendered whether the other person accepts or not. Don't attempt to force upon someone because in most cases, the other person isn't being true to their emotions and before you know it, they'll show up at a later time in a situation that may become vastly over exaggerated because old feelings weren't properly dealt with. Sometimes space and time is needed. Don't assume that you can conciliate them by making constant appeals. 

If you're the person having difficulty forgving, again pray about it and take a moment to examine why you're having such a hard time relinquising someone of their regret. If the offending person requires continuous impunity, then perhaps some time apart is needed, depending upon the circumstance.

Rather you're doing the forgiving or petitioning for it, remember that it only takes a blink of an eye for the roles to reverse.

Forgive and let live or let go....

Davina S.