Isn't it amazing how quickly we can move on from relationships? Men have done it to women and women have done it to men, dating and dashing isn't gender specific. So what do you do when the person that you cared about moves on while you're left disappointed and broken hearted? You move on.
I know that moving on is easier said than done but it's one of those things that's just not an option. Actively moving on from someone will involve you refocusing your attention on the things that really matter. Your family, health, career, and your long term goals should now be on the forefront of your mind every day that you wake up. Because let's be honest, the other person isn't thinking about you. They have moved onward and upward and are thanking God for their new blessing while you're sitting there feeling hurt and rejected.
Here are some tips for starting over WITHOUT them.
EXERCISE AND EAT HEALTHY
You've heard it before but you may not have believed it. Something takes place when you start moving your body around and your blood starts pumping. After pushing yourself to the next level during a workout, you finish feeling empowered and motivated. And let's be honest, the better you look, the better you feel.
FOCUS ON WHAT IS IMPORTANT
Most likely this was a toxic relationship anyway. You were with someone who wasn't meant to be a part of your life in a romantic capacity. When we give ourselves over to someone undeserving, we tend to put more energy into them than we should. Now that you're finished wasting your time and your precious energy, it's time to refocus. Are you at the income level that you desire? How is your relationship with God going? Family tight? Trust me, you have more important things to focus on than what could've been. It's time to level up.
Yes, pray. Consider how you got in this entanglement in the first place. What drew you to that person and when you saw the red flags (because there's always red flags) why didn't you cut the cord immediately? I find that when I'm consistent in prayer, my discernment increases and I'm more prone to make wiser decisions for myself.
Whatever the reason for your breakup, after it's all said and done, you still deserve to be happy. Don't limit yourself to the things that didn't work out in your life because they just bring you closer to the right things. Continue to work on yourself and before you know it, you'll have everything that you desire.
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We've all been there when it comes to reacting too quickly when you're on an emotional high. After the adult tantrum has taken place and your emotions have subsided, you often feel regret and in some cases, even embarrassment. So what is the best course of action when you've already jumped off the ledge?
Based upon your reaction, an apology may be needed. It's not always easy to admit when your response is wrong even when the other person may be guilty of an indiscretion.
In some instances, hitting the pause button may be a good approach. If you're constantly reacting the same way to a situation, perhaps it may be something that you're not facing properly and may warrant you to just step back to gather yourself.
If you find yourself regretting a text message, social media post, or vocal interaction, don't dwell on it forever, take action. Apologize if you need to but don't get stuck in it. We all make mistake and I'm sure the recipient of your reckless emotional state has been there once or twice themselves.
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It's okay to change. I have to actively remind myself of this on a regular basis. My perspectives and my overall view on life have transitioned over the years and not everyone has been supportive of it.
Different life experiences, for the developing person, will cause you to reevaluate what works for you and what doesn't. Not everyone will agree with the direction you choose to take in your life, but it is not their life to live.
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