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Behaving Badly

7/20/2015

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We all experience those moments when we say enough is enough and everyone whether near or far begins to get a taste of our vigilante wrath. This usually occurs after allowing true feelings of discontentment to lie doormat. We become at war with ourselves for suffering in silence and those around us, unfortunately become collateral damage. Some people are blessed with the natural capability of telling others what is exactly on their mind without a moments consideration of the repercussions. But for the laidback, nonaggressive personality types, that ability sometimes shows up too late. Things become more aggressively handled because emotions have risen to the center. How can a nonaggressive personality type then release themselves early on, without feeling too confrontational?

In my own experience, when I found myself lashing out at people who'd done a series of offensive things over time, I had to take a step back and look not only at the buildup, but why I waited so long to say something. I began to look more closely at what confrontation was. Confrontation is a hostile or argumentative meeting or situation between opposing parties. That wasn't what I would've been doing at all had I only spoken my mind early on. We tend to assume sometimes that people know when they're being offensive. Not everyone does. So in those moments, you just have to convey the message directly with the person. Although, there will be times when you approach someone and no matter how softly you put it, offense will still be there but it's usually temporary. Just like you needed time to speak, they'll need the same amount of time to receive. We've all played on both ends.

Davina 

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AdelrasKiDD
7/20/2015 05:55:49 am

Just last week I experienced a small misunderstanding with coworker. She felt I raised my voice at her and honestly I was soft/settled tone. Those that know me know I'm not a confrontational individual nor verbally aggressive. The coworkers was a more sensitive person who take everything as disrespect. Like you say in the passage, "no matter how softly you approach the matter offense still...." Such a true article and informative, thank you...

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