One Date At A Time

One Date At A Time

Some hopeless romantic may still believe that googly eyes can magically transpire into something more affectionate then  a few phone calls and blank text messages. Do you? What's different now from when marriages lasted beyond forty years? We can't blame it on the economy because there's no evidence to support that divorce rates increased during the Great Depression. So what then? Could it be that the moral compass has been tampered with and what is more commonly accepted now wasn't accpeted back then? More than likely.

We're living in a fast pace society that consist of convient meet and greets with little intention of ever getting to know someone. Social media has made it more easier than ever to meet someone quickly and discretely. Even over the course of time that has changed. At one point, you didn't have friends in your circle on facebook that you didn't know, but now it's free for all when it comes to both our time and personal space.
 In order to place more value on dating, we have to be real with ourselves and what it is that we're looking for. Ordinarilly, when on your first date, things like relationship status is brought up and from there, what it is that you're looking for. When one party says that they're currently not looking for anything serious and you are, accept what they've told you and plan NOT to make any future dates. Think about it. Dating is only considered dating when you're attracted to someone and you're spending time with them in hopes of getting to know them better for a possible future with one another. That's it. Anything else is just hanging out. Know the difference, accept the difference, and make better choices. Now that 's not to say that you can't take things slow to get a feel for that person, but that's totally different from someone blantantly expressing their lack of interest in pursuing commitment.

If you're currently on the market, be careful of what you accept. No one forces you to settle for what you don't want, only you can.

Davina