The Bible describes our bodies as being our temple, which makes perfect sense. When we start our yearly self improvement projects, it usually begins with us altering or changing one thing at a time. Sort of like cleaning a house. One room at a time. At the beginning of our work week our homes may look as though we've hired a professional cleaning service. By Thursday, however, things drastically tend to change. Same as with our lives. In the beginning of the year we have all of these new year resolutions and a strong desire to eliminate any toxic relationships that we currently have from our lives and some of us actually follow through. By June, it seems as though we've added at least two back to the repertoire, finding ourselves in the same predicament. Why?
Well, by nature, we can all be quite forgiving people. I often fall into this category, which isn't a bad thing. It only becomes bad once your willingness to forgive someone allows existing toxic ways entryway back into your life, causing recurring hurt. Have you ever heard the saying, 'forgive but don't forget.' One may argue that if you hold on to the memory of past transgressions or offenses, that you haven't really forgiven. I beg to differ. Remembering can have its share of benefits. You become aware of the person in which you are dealing with, you understand the limits of expectations, and if you want them in your life, you understand their potential. Now this isn't saying people don't change or evolve, only that their past can be an indication of what may lie ahead.
Taking into consideration that change is very well possible, in remembering, we also have to be careful not to allow old hurt to give way to resentment. What a bitter road to travel. After all, if you're willing to forgive and allow one place in your life, then the least you can do is enjoy it. If it's a family member, that would make it all the more important. If an old friend, there must've been something cherishable for you to give them such a title. An old flame, the possibility of endless happiness.
So while embracing the spirit of change and self cleansing of things or people that may be weighing heavy in your life, remember that these things often takes time. Cleansing the rooms of your temple may require you to clean one room at a time. That may or may not involve replacing, refreshing, and or replenishing. You decide.