patiently waiting

We've all dealt with the right away syndrome. Where you wanted something and just had to have it immediately, but upon receiving it, acknowledged that it was something that you probably should've waited on. Well a healthy relationship is no different. We often try and rush this particularly. At some point I ask, what's the rush? Is it an age thing, a lonely thing, or a time thing? Understandably, if you've been dating someone for over a year without a definite relationship title, then of course that warrants some expressed attention. But what of those who meet people and immediately want the relationship title before they've taken the proper time to see if that person is even relationship material, according to what it is that they're looking for.

Majority of the time, when things like a relationship are rushed, it crumbles before it's built. I'm a strong believer in a sinewy foundation and therefore like to spend a large amount of time with the person in whom I'm building a connection with. After all, at 30 and up, we're usually dating to marry and you want be sure that the person is someone who'd you want to take that life journey with.

If you're rushing a relationship, you should look at why you're rushing it and why the other person is not? Are you more invested in it then they are? Or perhaps they never even considered things going beyond a casual point, and in this case, you should consider your exit options because if you're looking to be someone's Mr. or Mrs., this will only be a waste of time. Eventually you'll have to settle with spending some time with yourself and ladies and gents, THIS ISN'T A BAD THING! It's actually fantastic. When someone meets you after you've discovered who you are and you're happy with it, they'll be happy with it! You'll no longer need that affirmation from various individuals who probably haven't discovered themselves yet.

In essence, wait. In your waiting you're not waiting on someone else to arrive, but you're waiting on YOU to arrive. Don't you think that you're worth patiently waiting for?

Love yourself first

Davina S.