We're Not All The Same

Adelras "Kidd" Johnson

When taking a look at modern dating from the perspective of a woman, majority would place all males within the same typical categories. Cheater, womanizer, player, and simply immature. When asking most women why they’re currently single, it’s largely attributed to the lack of available men who are ready to be involved in a committed relationship.  But what is there to say about those men who consider themselves to be available bachelors, but who have not found Mrs. Right?

Adelras Johnson, an Arkansas native, currently finds himself in the for mentioned category. After experiencing a few long term relationships and a moderate dating history, Adelras yet finds himself available, in what feels like, an unavailable market. As I sat down to get Adelras's, better known as Kidd, to his peers and loved ones, opinion on the facets of dating in this day and age, I was taken aback by the substantial difference in opinion when it comes to the way women commonly view men.

Me: What do you consider dating to be?

Kidd: When you're entertaining a woman for the sole purpose of seeing if there's a future. Some men have different definitions for dating according to age. When I was younger, dating was less purposeful. I was mostly interested in having fun and once I was no longer interested, I simply moved on to the next one. This is currently not my perspective. I'm looking for something more meaningful.

I was never really taught how to date. So I only saw what was in front of me. I was rarely interested in what lied beneath. Now, I look for substance.

Me: With that being said, how do you feel about the current dating field?

Kidd: I can only speak for myself, but I find that most women now are emulating what's being portrayed on television. They watch these shows where women are constantly being sexually exploited and assume that's what all men look for. I'm not a drinker or a clubber and most women aren't into that. I once went on a date with this very pretty young lady and once I made her aware of this, she said that I didn't do anything. That statement gave me a lot of insight on her day to day activities. Her perceptions of dating didn't go past a short tight dress with a drink in her hand. She considered me to be boring.

Me: As I listen to you, I know that there will be a lot of women wondering, how can they find someone with your same qualities and yet same level of thinking. What would be your advice to those women?

Kidd: Basically every man is different but godly men have the same symbol of morals.

Me: In other words, what attracts a man like you?

Kidd: A woman lives from her heart. She takes care of her responsibilities. The woman that I'll be interested in will have values, stand for something, possess class and carry her beauty beyond a physical point.

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After taking a more thorough look into the world of dating from the aspect of an eligible bachelor, how have your views changed concerning the available amount of good men? Or have they?


DaVina S.