WHAT'S IMPORTANT TO YOU

Often when we don't get what it is that we want we tend to settle. We settle on jobs, on people, relationships, things, and the list goes on and on. We can't quite credit our adaptability to accept lessor than our true desires on a lack of patience solely. Sometimes we only need to look at what it is that we value or what we consider to be most important. I, myself, value time but I can't say that its stopped me from wasting a boatload of it. At some point, we have to start taking responsibility for neglecting the things in which we value most.

Jobs come and go and sometimes that is completely out of our controls. However, there are some instances where do what we have to in order to earn a living but never make any further attempts at acquiring the profession that we really want. To achieve this it takes diligence, perseverance, fight, and time. I don't know too many people who've matriculated through the educational system, who enjoys the thought of taking further online courses and throwing themselves back into teen studying mode, but sometimes, that's exactly what it takes. Many makeup artist are spending their days doing something that they don't love because it takes too much consistency, hard work, and people skills to break through successfully. But how much more rewarding would it be to put a little work in for a while and have it pay off for a lifetime?

I think that we've all had or know someone whose settled in a relationship or the lack thereof. Accepting that you may never find the perfect person is quite different from excepting anything. I've called people lonely and I've been told that I was lonely, so for clarification, the Merriam definition for lonely is sad from being apart from other people. With that being said, are you currently in a relationship but find yourself feeling the same exact way that you felt when you weren't with anyone at all? If yes, then perhaps you've settled and you're lonely. In spite of the misconception, there are a lot of people who actually enjoy being single. That usually takes times and buildup because quite naturally, after a divorce, split or breakup, no one enjoys it. It's when your heart has healed and you begin to appropriately allocate value, that you're then able to be blissfully okay with being singularly okay.

My advice, don't settle! If you find yourself in a temporary situation, as long as you aren't using someone else to cause them avoidable pain, stay there while focusing on going after what you truly want. This often applies to jobs. Your peace, joy, and happiness depends on it.

Davina