WORRY LESS OVER THE SPILLED MILK
We've all been told, 'there's no point of crying over spilled milk', and at the time that we heard it, we were most likely fuming over the milk spillage. But with time and a cool head we began to see the logic behind the statement. There is really nothing that can be done concerning situations that have already occurred outside of taking corrective measures. Corrective measures meaning, mending what can be mended or just simply learning by way of experience.
We often spend a large amount of time on regret. Regret that we allowed, and I use that term loosely, certain things to take place within our lives. Things that we most likely had absolutely no control over, but that's never been a good enough reason to stop us from self criticizing.
Reflecting on some of my own experiences, when I "spilled milk" I would have to get five different opinions on the matter and then I would over indulge in mental play, examining why I hadn't done what my fold of counselors would've done had they experienced the same thing, This is the least affective route.
It took several nights of worrying, anxiety, and even depression before I learned to no longer cry over spilled milk. Now I take a vastly different approach to dealing with these kind of situations. I allot myself no more than a day to regret and sob before I jump right into the following.
1. I acknowledge what's happened. No matter how upsetting it is, I have to accept it for what it is.
2. I find a way to either deal with it or fix it.
3. I learn from it.
I hope this will help someone to worry less and live more. Life is full of mishaps. It's all about how you deal with them that makes the difference.